Couples who enter marriage thinking that love is all about roses and chocolate are in for a big surprise. Developing and maintaining a healthy relationship requires work. On the other hand, married people tend to live longer and be happier than singles. So, it’s worth trying, right? You can start with these simple relationship tips.
1) Make time for each other. You’re probably busy. Most people are. People are busy with work, children and hobbies. The problem is that a lot of people don’t put their spouses on the to-do list, and next thing they know, they’re busy with a total divorce.
Having a weekly date night, for example, can help you schedule time together. At night, catch up on how the day went instead of falling asleep immediately. Too tired? Maybe you should consider running together instead of hitting the gym alone. Figure out how to spend time together, even if you have to put it on the calendar.
2) Play on the same team. That sounds obvious, but it’s amazing how many people start playing against each other during the early years of marriage. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t argue (see the next tip), but always remember that you love each other, and you’re rooting for mutual success and happiness.
3) Face the fire. What’s the worst thing you can do with conflict? Avoid it. People argue about money, sex, children and all kinds of issues. That’s part of life. Usually, these fights aren’t really about right or wrong, they are about differing opinions. Try to understand opposing viewpoints, and talk it out.
Even if you follow the above tips, marriage isn’t a piece of cake. Just remember to keep trying as long as the benefits outweigh the challenges!